Beauty...is in the eye of the beholder

One of my girlfriends was asking about why some guys don't tell the gals they date that they are beautiful. So I responded with the following:

Does it matter if someone tells you you're beautiful or not if he treats you as though you are special and beautiful?
How important is being beautiful to you and do you need to hear it from a third party to confirm it.

Does being told you're beautiful boost your self esteem and self worth? Does it matter what other people say and don't say or what other people feel and don't feel? Isn't enough to be comfortable in your own skin and to feel happy with how you look?

Why should we let what other people's thoughts and comments affect how you feel about yourslef and do we as women really need the validation?

Do we need to look and dress like the women in fashion magazines and on tv?

It does feel nice to be told that you are beautiful by the man you love and are attracted to, but what good is beauty when someone does not treat you well or with the respect that you wish for and deserve?

Looks are superficial and only part of the equation. When that fades with old age, does that matter anymore and would losing your youth and good looks make you change your perception of yourself and of what is beautiful? Does it make you feel any more or any less good about yourself?
I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder and people's opinion of other people's looks only matter to the extent each individual allows it to matter to them

Women will never tell you they think you are beautiful as they are too busy comparing themselves against you.

Men will only tell you that you are beautiful when they try to win you over but stop once they have you.

I think at the end of the day, we can't all be a supermodel or look like the celebrities. We just have to be happy with what was given to us and to make the best out of it.

To be comfortable with your own self, who you are, and what you look like is the biggest challenge. If you can get to that point, everything else becomes easier and other people's opinions won't matter

If you keep trying to change yourself, both your looks and personality to please others, you'll never satisfy everyone as everyone's opinion is different.

And if a man doesn't think you're beautiful or thinks it but doesn't say it, what does it matter at the end of the day when he's not there when it matters and when you need him. His thoughts and opinions are not that important at that point.